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So you’ve signed up for online dating and after sufficient browsing you finally met someone that “does it for you”. You are just beginning to think that meeting this person in a first face to face date is the obvious next step, but before you take the plunge, there is some homework to be done if you want to stay safe and protect yourself from unnecessary disappointment.

There are numerous ways in which you can research the person you intend on meeting before you get down to it.

Background checks really are our friends. They can tell you everything and anything from convicted felony reports down to financial history reports. Depending on which service you choose to use, you can find out someone’s entire history, but if spending a considerable amount on just looking into someone’s identity doesn’t appeal to you there are also quite a few free, fast and easy online background checking sites that can give you a rough idea of what you are dealing with.

Use Your Instincts

You really need to sit down and have a good long and hard look at this persons profile on the dating website. What does his profile picture look like?

Sadly if it looks too good to be true, it probably is, and you don’t want to get caught off guard with an extra 50 pounds surrounding your “hot blooded” lover’s waist when you finally do meet up.

In the conversations that you have had with him or her, can you see that they were actually trying to get to know you or were they simply telling you what you wanted to hear in order to draw you close? There are countless online con artists out there and you surely don’t want to be meeting up with the wrong kind of people.

A little Facebook stalking never hurt anyone. You aren’t being a crazy stalker, you are simply ensuring that you have all the details before you plunge in and agree to meet this person. Look through their photos and their friends. Instagram, LinkedIn and Twitter are also great tools that can make the picture you have of this person a little more colorful.

No news is normally bad news, so if you aren’t finding a hit on the person you are looking up, sadly they might not really exist or are working very hard at hiding something.

You can never know too much about a potential love interest before actually meeting up with him or her. Chances are if they really are who they say they are and want to meet you as much as you want to meet with them, they have been doing their own research on you.

In a world where the prying hands of cyber cons is more alive than ever, we all need to make sure that we have all the relevant information to make an informed decision on whether or not we really want this person to step into our reality.  The virtual dating world is wide open and has limitless opportunities that can provide a safe and fun experience if and when you use these basic guidelines to thoroughly researching your date.

To learn more about how to date online safely, read our ultimate guide here.


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